MAKING THE RIGHT DECISION ON PATERNITY LEAVE

Daniel Murphy and His Wife, Tori, recently celebrated the birth of their first Child–a Boy, by the name of Noah.  Both of his two immediate bosses were very supportive of his decision to take some time-off to be there for his Wife and their New Baby.  So, why all the consternation?  Well, you see, it’s New York City!

Daniel Murphy is a second baseman with the New York Mets baseball team.  Noah was born on Opening Day of the new 2014 baseball season.  And, with the team having lost all of its first three games, that might have merely added to the vitriol.  It seems, however, that all of the anger is balled-up in sports talk radio show hosts, Mike Francesa and Boomer Esiason, of WFAN’s “Boomer & Carton”.

Murphy had originally planned to take the three days allowed by the League’s Collective Bargaining Agreement; but, he decided to return to the team after only two days.  Both Esiason and Francesca stated that he should have convinced his Wife to have a C-Section ahead of time so that he could be there for his team.  Do they realize that a C-Section is major surgery?  There must be an Idiocy Test to host a show on WFAN!

Listeners calling into the show mostly seemed to side with the Murphy’s.  Also, a poll in the New York Daily News voted 88% in favor of the Murphy’s decision, as well.  Collins, the Team Manager, defended his player and pointed-out that, last year, Daniel Murphy took only one day off, in a 162 game season.  So, there’s still hope for New Yorkers.

Back 30-35 years ago, the Father could not be present in the Operating Room when the Delivery was by a C-Section.  So, I spent that whole time waiting, with my nose pressed up against the window of the Nursery.  I remember making eye contact with our newborn Daughter who seemed to be wondering who that smiling lunatic was.  And, my first memory of my son was, again, making eye contact and watching him poop twice before the nurse had the diaper on him.

One of the TV news talk show hosts was shown holding his newborn Daughter in the Hospital.  When host filling-in for him reached him on the telephone, he confirmed his great joy at being with his Wife and Newborn Daughter.  When you think about it: Family should always be a far more important focus in one’s life rather than anything else.  Most baseball careers last, perhaps, five-to-ten years; however, hopefully, your relationship with your Spouse and Children will endure for decades beyond that.

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  1. #1 by cheekos on April 4, 2014 - 3:06 PM

    Brad Harrington, executive director of the Boston College Center for Work & Family, bombasted that: “Women who take leave…are seen as bad workers but good mothers,” Williams said. “The men are often seen as bad workers and losers as men.”

  2. #2 by Polly A. Meulenberg on April 4, 2014 - 11:51 PM

    Great post! Had me chuckling! More like this!

  3. #3 by maxcat06 on April 5, 2014 - 11:19 PM

    I know. When I first heard about the radio announcers I thought it was an April Fools joke. Well, they are jokes, but the jokes are on them. What century are these guys living in? And besides, it was the Mets! Sorry, but they probably would have lost to the Nats anyway.

  4. #4 by Marissa Huber on May 4, 2014 - 4:33 PM

    It’s sad when we have come so far, yet such a gender gap will remain evident in the workplace and at home when the media is mocking men who take being a parent seriously. I personally want to raise my next child in Sweden, where both partners get a bonus if they partake in parental leave!

    And yes, the mentality for many Americans seems like schedule C-sections is a good idea! It particularly seems the case in Florida California and New York in my opinion…

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